7:57 a.m. - 2007-09-07
Men In Trees
After watching "Men In Trees" last night I came to five conclusions:
1) Love changes
2) Rebounds follow breakups
3) You need your friends when love does change
4) Boundaries when it comes to the heart can't be crossed no matter how much you think it will not matter
5) Lingerie is a must
To give you some brief background on what I am talking about “Men in Trees” is a brilliantly written ABC network show that airs on Thursday evenings CST @ 9:00 p.m. by one of the head writers and executive producers of "Sex and the City" and the director of the Academy Award winning film, "Walk the Line." It is a fun and sexy drama about finding love in the most unexpected places. Plus Marin the main character LOVES shoes, like me!
As the leading character Marin says "Finding a good man in today's world isn't as difficult as some women think. You just have to watch out for the signs. You wouldn't drive with a blindfold on, but for some reason, women continue to date with one on."
The main character is an native New Yorker (Marin) who thinks she has found a good man, fiancé Graham, but discovers, bound for a speaking engagement in Elmo, Alaska, that he's been cheating on her. Their plan to get married comes to a screeching halt. Marin is shocked being an expert on that species and all... and concludes that she really doesn't know anything about men. And so Marin decides to temporarily stay in Elmo, where the ratio of men to women is ten to one, and get started on her new book - about men.
You may say after reading all of that - well it sounds like a typical network show. But it is not. The narrative at the end of every episode hits you.... well like from left field, where you least expect it. It makes you think, it makes your cry and it makes you nod your head in agreement.
So back to the five items I wrote about.
1) In all certainties and in any relationship that encompasses the word “love” – it will change. The dynamics, which you found your love will either grow or diminish. You will have your good times and your bad and you will grow from each experience. Love has a way of bending you to do things you never thought of and breaks and tears you up when it pulls away.
2) Rebounds always follow a loss of a love. It is just the nature of the beast. It can encompass another relationship or a new project that you sink yourself in. It is a way for the spirit and mind to heal and meditate on the lesson that you just experienced. It is a chance for you to forget for a while.
3) True, genuine friends will help you through it all. They will be with you through all of your good and bad decision and they won’t judge you ever. They will feel your pain and reassure you that you will get through it all. And your real friends will come to your rescue even if they are having the best sex they ever experienced and won’t think twice about it.
4) Boundaries with regards to affairs of the heart well…. we shouldn’t cross them, though I have twice in my life. You can think you are clever, sexy and smarter and you can justify your actions all you want. You can say that life is short so I am going for it, I am bored, I am lonely, this is easy sex so why not go for it, or in my case I am not married so who cares? but when you do cross a love boundary that involves someone else heart you are only kidding yourself. They are not yours to play with; they belong to someone else. And only you will get hurt. Not them. If you can keep it at 10,000 feet you will be ok, but if not, you are up a creek... with no one to save you but yourself.
5) And most importantly…there is nothing like wearing lingerie under a coat in the dead of winter and showing your boyfriend. The very thought of it makes me go crazy and it is my kind of thing for sure. I plan on doing that again when and if I get a new boyfriend - without a doubt!
And when Marin first saw Jack…well it was the same way I felt when first saw Rick Essex. WOW, blink, blink, blink – WOW ….
And Jack…dump Lynn and go with your heart – Just go for the golden egg!
